- Make the conversation about the two of you. Even if you’re wearing a strap-on, this isn’t about “you,” it’s about “we.” You should want to explore this as both someone interested in being the giver, but also as someone who’s excited to have their partner be the receiver. If your partner says “no” and they aren’t willing to even entertain the possibility of anal penetration, you need to be OK with that. Good sexual experiences are built on pleasure, trust, and communication.
- Acknowledge the scary stuff. That being said, Jean says it’s important to discuss and acknowledge someone’s fear and worries, if only for better communication and education. “Understand and hear their reservations – if any – and provide education if needed.” For instance, the receiving partner may be afraid it will hurt or that poop will get everywhere. “Neither of those need to happen with pegging, so try your best to mitigate and understand those reservations,” says Jean.
Hygiene and Anal Play
Start with hygiene. Sometimes feeling as clean as possible internally can help alleviate some of the stress around the “messiness” of butt play. If you want to douche beforehand, use a simple bulb like this one. If this doesn’t appeal to you, just be sure to take a shower beforehand and have a solid bowel movement three to four hours before receiving anal. (Before you try anal douching, read up on how to get started and potential risks.)
Speaking of poop, it’s low-key unavoidable in most cases. If you’re going to do butt stuff, you need to come to terms with this fact. Continue reading “You don’t need to douche in order to try pegging, but some people prefer it”